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Date a guy who writes. Date a guy whose fingers are stained with ink, whose pockets are filled with pens, and whose eyes smile and dance with curiosity. Date a guy who notices things like the colour of your hair and the way you have your coffee, not because he has to, but just because it’s a habit of his to notice things. Date a guy who can barely get around a computer, but is expert with his word processor. It doesn’t matter; he prefers pen and paper anyway.

Find a guy who writes. You’ll find him just outside a library. He’ll like the idea of being outside, on the verge of a thousand worlds, a few steps away. He’ll love the idea of being outside, on the brink of one world, a few carefully placed letters away.

Or he will be inside a café. He doesn’t care whether it’s boutique or Gloria Jeans, moodily or well lit, though he likes it there especially when it’s raining. He will be the one with a notebook in one hand, pen in the other, lounging back and trying to think of how to best word what he wants to say next. Buy him a coffee. Or a tea. Or a hot chocolate. Buy him something to eat, too. He’d forgotten about food and he needs help remembering. Understand that he wants to talk to you, but if he drifts off for a moment, or bends forward to hurriedly scribble something, it’s because you’ve inspired him. This is a good thing.

Ask him what he’s writing. If he shows you, he’s being honest, exposing his heart. Return the favour. Tell him how his work makes you feel, not how you feel about his work. He’s sensitive, but eager to become better. He will love when you get what he’s on about, when you laugh at his jokes, admire the way he plays with words, adore his imagery, recognise his references. He will love you when you love his work. If he doesn’t show you, don’t be disheartened. He isn’t ready yet, but he will be. It will be all the sweeter for the wait.

He will spend hours with you, entranced with you. He tries to fathom you, but he knows he won’t ever completely, and he’s okay with this. In fact, this makes him feel kind of glad. He likes complex characters. He wants to create them, and being around them helps.

Kiss him. You have to be first, because he’s not sure whether he’s misreading the signals. He would hate to confuse the tendrils of a daydream with the jarring of reality. You have to be first because he’s too scared to lose you. After that, he will lose himself in you, without hesitation. There’s no misreading that first kiss.

Don’t lie to him. He won’t lie to you because he hopes you’ll be honest with him. Show integrity. He appreciates that. Then again, lie to him. He loves your complexity, and the cadence of your untruths will ensnare him, your weaving of excuses will remind him that humanity is duplicitous in its very nature. He likes being reminded of humanity.

Tell him when you fail. He understands. He will fail, too. He knows he will eventually have editors and proofreaders for mistakes. He knows he has you for when he fails. He hopes you will have him when you do the same.

Complain to him, tell him how your day was. It may not be relevant to his story, but he’ll want to hear your voice. He’ll store these details away and use them when even you have forgotten. He will remember. It’s a habit.

Make him do things spontaneously. Experiment with him. Make him do things he would never do. He will love you for this, because sometimes he wishes he could do the things he writes about, be the characters he dreams of. You can make this happen.

He will propose to you. Probably with a slip of paper, words neatly printed, hidden inside a fountain pen you gave him, or in place of the bookmark you always use. He may not say anything out loud, but his heart is screaming for you. Know that he finds comfort in the written word, in its solidarity, in its stasis. For him, the written word is true, and does not change. Remember, he is a writer, and this is who he is. Accept this, and you accept him.

You will have children. They will grow up, fed on a diet of strange worlds and captivating snapshots of language and wild turns of phrase, become accustomed to the essence of images distilled by the purity of a pen. Even better, they also will write.

They will grow old, and you will realise that you, too, have grown older. He’d made you forget with his homespun tales. Or maybe it was that habit of his that you’d made your own: you drift off again.

He dies. Or you die. It doesn’t matter who goes first, the other won’t be far behind. But neither of you are really dead. He has captured a little of you in everything he’s written, a little of himself, too. You both live on through his words, eternally entwined.

You should date a guy who writes.
You really should. I write. ;)

This is a response to the 'You should date an illiterate girl' and 'You should date a girl who reads' essays, and all of their offspring ('A girl who writes' and 'A man who reads', among others). I felt inspired, let's just say. Anyway, I would love to hear what you think, if there are parts that don't work well or sound corny, stupid, clunky, etc.

Feel free to drop a comment, I love replying to you and making new friends!

[Also found on my blog and on tumblr.]
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:iconimsolikeconfusedlike:
While lacking a bit of originality (being a response to all these other 'you should date' essays), it is still a good piece of writing.

Sometimes I think the grammar is too structured in some parts. Good pieces of writing don't have to be 100% grammatically correct. Neither do great ones.

It has a lot of references specifically to you in - which is good, but it sometimes become a cliche/stereotype.

It reads well and flows nicely. Quite empathetic to readers as well.
One of your better pieces of writing :p

P.S. I mark harshly, so don't feel disheartened!
And remember, the best pieces of writing are the ones where you aren't trying. For then it is your voice coming out.
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First of all, I was amazed at how very accurately you described the life of a true writer - or, at least, the ideal life of one: being constantly inspired, spending one's time at libraries and coffee shops and listening to the rain... It's all very well and very accurately described, I think:aww: Your phrasing is artful and poetic, even in prose, but it's still easy to follow and the train of thought is easy to see. You have a good mix of sentence structures and phrasing order, as well as a nice variety of interesting vocabulary, though I think there are a couple of times where you phrased something a little too formally for the overall attitude you've already got going on in the piece.

I found very few grammatical errors, though there is one spot in paragraph 4 where you said, "recognizes his references" and I think you meant "recognize his references." Though I said earlier that your line of thinking is easy to follow, there was one spot that was more difficult to understand in paragraph 7. First you say that "don't lie to him" and then, only a couple of short sentences later, you say "then again, lie to him." I think I can see (from what you wrote after that) what you mean by putting in both of those ideas, but I don't think the explanation you provide is enough.... or maybe it's just not clear enough, but it needs something more, I think.

In your author's comment area, you ask for notification if there are any places that sound cheesy, etc., but I think I can assure you that it's not - on the contrary, I think it's sweet and very accurate as to the mindset of any writer (male or female:D). Overall, I really loved this piece, and you did a great job with it!
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LaughMakerAna Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
I love this! I can totally relate to this as I am dating a writer. He's a very complex himself though. 
This is brilliant. Beautifully woven together! 
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2014  Student Writer
Thanks so much! I'm really pleased you can relate (means I'm doing my job right!) :D

Thanks for the fave as well :hug:
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LaughMakerAna Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
No problem! Thanks for writing such a good piece!
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thatwasagreatname Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2014
this is wonderful!
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2014  Student Writer
Thank you! :heart:
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Black-Eevee Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2014  Student Writer
I'm dating a guy who writes.
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2014  Student Writer
Can you relate to this at all?
(And welcome to dA!)
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Black-Eevee Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2014  Student Writer
Thanks and yes
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2014  Student Writer
Oh good :D
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Black-Eevee Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2014  Student Writer
Yup
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Poad02 Featured By Owner Sep 20, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
victoryplz  INSPIRATIONAL. ...this was a so freaking adorable I could totally picture you as an anime character with a scarf and a quill writing this at an old drawing desk... I'm not as creepy as I used to be so I won't draw whats in my head but... I really want to... groovinplz  Oh well...
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Sep 20, 2013  Student Writer
Haha! I'd love to see that. If you ever do draw it, please link it to me!
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Poad02 Featured By Owner Sep 21, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Alright, alright now I have to. xD I'm not that good though so bear with me.
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Sep 21, 2013  Student Writer
Haha! Yay! :w00t:
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Poad02 Featured By Owner Sep 21, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Awwwwwwww, its coming out adorably!!namikaiFANGIRLINGplz Just got to work on the pants and the glasses part.  And then add some color. Clamperl La 
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Sep 21, 2013  Student Writer
Haha! Yay!
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tsunamisue Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2013
Well, I love it.  So hard to get into the head of any man... but there we are, dancing around in the brain of the writer, in his motives and his fears and his giving of himself.  I felt swept away and a little sad - because I don't know a writer (other than me) and don't live close enough to a lovely coffee shop to seek him out.  I wonder though, if he could seek her instead.. because, as Rumi said "what you are seeking is seeking you!"  Thanks for the words, they were a gift today!
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2013  Student Writer
Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed it :hug:
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Yessincrewoow Featured By Owner Sep 11, 2013
Sounds beautiful, I would love to date a man who writes. Love 
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2013  Student Writer
I think I've romanticised it an awful lot. Trust me, we have our faults too :P
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Yessincrewoow Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2013
I know, I also write and I'm not perfect, nobody is.
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YKajitaka Featured By Owner Aug 26, 2013  Student Interface Designer
En summary:  Aw damn.  I got the fuzzies.

This was like reading one of my daydreams; finding that guy that understands every time I run off on a rant about how my characters aren't cooperating  (most just look at me like a tree full of owls and try to subtly get out of the way)...  I wish.  Ha.

This piece really has a that dreamy feeling though-- you see the montage of life fade from one scene to the next, edged in a little mist that teases you into thinking maybe, maybe not... like wandering through the wardrobe into Narnia.

(and now that I'm done being poetic, I'm going to save this and read it again later like the addict I am.  XDD )
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Aug 30, 2013  Student Writer
Aw, thanks so so much!! :hug:

You made me feel all funny when you described the "dreamy feeling". Exactly the mood I was going for! So thank you for saying that! :D
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Lady-Yume Featured By Owner Aug 17, 2013   Writer
Your wonderful work has been featured here: lady-yume.deviantart.com/journ… :heart:
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Aug 17, 2013  Student Writer
Thanks heaps! :glomp:
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TheChesherCat Featured By Owner Aug 4, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
This is lovely!
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Aug 8, 2013  Student Writer
Thank you! :hug:
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LadyBrookeCelebwen Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh, this is very lovely! :D I adore all the phrasing in it.
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2013  Student Writer
Thank you! I'm glad you liked it :hug:
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LadyBrookeCelebwen Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
You're welcome! :hug:
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Oh the beauty. T_T I adore how you ensnare a complete stranger with the life of another person - a life that hasn't even happened yet! The beautiful little things, so mundane and yet so important, make for a sense of excitement and expectation as the story progresses. It would truly be a life worth leading, as the understanding between the partners and their mutual fascination with each other is something to be desired by many and accomplished by so few. 

The language is a whole other plane of amazing. The switch between the informal guy and confusing the tendrils of a daydream with the jarring of reality is just... too perfect to be true! You weave the complex expressions of a writer around the repeating rythm of the starting imperatives so skillfully it looks almost effortless. Almost, because a writer's life is hardly without hardships.

All in all, a rare and inspiring piece of art that definitely deserves a reader's attention. :D 
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2013  Student Writer
Oh thanks so so much! :hug:
It is very much an idealised situation, but I had a lot of fun writing it :P

Gah, you're compliments are what every writer dreams of! Thank you so so much for both taking the time to read my piece and to comment with such loveliness :D
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Heh, Utopia wouldn't be so popular if it was within reach ;) Glad you enjoyed it though, the story simply wouldn't be the same otherwise :D 

You're too kind! The time was well spent and the comment well deserved, 't was no trouble at all :D 


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CurtainRodFace Featured By Owner Jul 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
How on earth did you just make me fall in love with someone I've never met?
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Jul 5, 2013  Student Writer
Haha! I'm glad I made you feel that way :P
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J-Henrique-S Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I wanted to date a woman who writes.
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2013  Student Writer
You and me both, you and me both :P
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Silverwind100 Featured By Owner Jun 20, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
This is just gorgeous. I could use so many more words to describe it ( creative, sweet, romantic, etc) but that would take too long.
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2013  Student Writer
:hug: Thanks so much!
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Silverwind100 Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
You're welcome!
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sefeli Featured By Owner Jun 16, 2013
I can only think of one thing: I'd like to meet with this guy!
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Jun 16, 2013  Student Writer
There's a few of us writer guys out there :P
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sefeli Featured By Owner Jun 17, 2013
Maybe one day I meet one...
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Jun 17, 2013  Student Writer
You never know... :)
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Lady-Yume Featured By Owner Jun 16, 2013   Writer
This is absolutely lovely! It's honest and yet full of wonderful imagery; I drifted off to perfect-boy-land for a while there :heart:
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Jun 16, 2013  Student Writer
Haha! Thank you; I'm glad you enjoyed it :hug:
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Wordeea Featured By Owner Jun 12, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
this was perfect :heart: and it could be titled : you should date a girl who writes ;)
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2013  Student Writer
Too true! And thank you :hug:
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haphazardmelody Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
This is fabulous.
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BlakeCurran Featured By Owner Jun 12, 2013  Student Writer
Thanks so much! :D
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